Frank Yan of Sacramento on Who, What, When, Where and Why

Who I loved was a girl from college. I wasn’t exactly that close with her. But with some superficial facts and a few interactions over a semester, (you know like most guys fantasizing over a girl that they barley know); I filled in the blanks like a fairytale author. And who she became in my head was probably more than the reality. She was the third year sorority girl. And yes, I was the infatuated freshman. Sure but, the several times we got to spend together outside of class, it really allowed me to see she also had a good heart and a bright spirit. The only problem was so just did every other guy. And while she turned me down nicely. I swear there were times when it seemed like the clique sorority girl may have felt something for the typically awkward freshman.

What I loved was an old friend. But she was much more than just a friend.We met early in college and kept in touch within the years after. We watched each other grow and change. And through multiple relationships. I saw her different boyfriends come and go. She also was there for every girlfriend and every break up of mine. Personality, humor, taste, it was all there. Her and I were almost perfect. The only thing that wasn’t perfect was her timing. We were never ever single at the same time. What we loved about each other was never enough to leave who we were with. This was something we eventually had to face and accept. And we had to leave behind… What we had.

When I loved was my first girlfriend in high school. It is a bit unfair because, she embodies the combination of both “Love and Youth”. The feeling of young love is unique and impossible to replace or replicate. Because we can only be at that age once. High school was a time of innocence, discovery, and adventure. We shared these 3 elements together in things like, our first kiss, late nights sneaking out, and matinee movies in all of which now become a nostalgic love preserved in a time where neither of us can touch, but knows its there. Even though we were just kids, there’s not a doubt in my mind when we were there, we were in love.

Where I loved was the girl I met in Sacramento. I never intended to stay here that long. It was just a 6 month internship after graduating, but it all changed when I met her. Soon a year had past then somehow another year after that, I couldn’t leave the city. I just couldn’t leave her. Maybe it was my desire to be on my own or prove something to everyone back at home. But she helped me accomplish it over here with a relationship so reflective of the city we were in. A new energy, new experience that really pushed me more mature, more than anyone, or anywhere else. When people ask, what city I love the most, I say Sacramento. The city where I loved the most.

Why I loved was a close friend who past away. She told me after she was diagnosed that death was not what saddened her the most but the fact that she never really felt like she fallen in love. She wouldn’t get to have those emotions. Good and bad of being hurt and of being held. After she past those words stuck with me the most. Teaching me to see that one of the greatest gifts we have of being alive is the ability to give, receive, and even lose love. There’s so many like her that who’s lives end before having any of those experiences. What a waste if we don’t strive to love in our lives. She made me understand why. Why waste this life not loving.

You were the 6th. Your none of them because you are all of them. You are Who I loved. The girl on the pedestal, the fantasy, the make belief things that are actually true. Your what I loved. The depth, the inside jokes, the best friend. You are when I love. A new history has been started with you. We are the young lovers our older selves will some day reminisce about. You are where I love, because I would go anywhere just to be with you. You are why I love because before you I truly didn’t understand what I was looking for. And now that we have found each other, you’ve given my past the future of meaning. You are the 6th. And you are the last.

Frank Yan of Sacramento on What If....

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The question asked is. What if... One day Frank Yan was sitting in his Sacramento ALLDATA office pondering about these two words These two words spoken one at a time seem to appear totally harmless, however when put together it asks the question that it had made more revenue, brought in more sales, and perhaps broken more sales reps than any other two words in the world.

If said separately, WHAT and IF. There's not any harm done, now we use these 2 words hundred times a day in regular conversation. What is that, what did he say, what did you do, what does that mean; all these are questions asked everyday. If you did this then, if she had said, if that had happened, if he had done; are also statements that are used in regular conversation.

Frank Yan asks, to say the 2 words together, “WHAT IF”? When put together they both make a question, “what ifthis happened, “what if" she did, “what ifhe said, “what ifI do, “what ifI mentioned, “what if”....
The “What ifquestion has assisted in making the best inventions in this world today. These two words can question status quo and force people to look into an issue further and try new never before tried ideas. “What if can drive us into directions we never thought of. “What Ifcan stir our imagination and helps us think.

There are other times we use “WHAT IF”, and it is not a pleasant thing in this context. “WHAT IFI HAD ONLY? When “what ifis used to second guess a life long decision. Then these 2 words will become a tool of self destruction. The both could destroy a company, destroy a career, and the worst of all, it can destroy a family.

So how can we avoid the “what ifquestion? Avoid it by following the words made famous by the Nike brand, “JUST DO IT”! Begin to do more and question our selves less we will not be using “what ifin the future. Some of us may say that we are too young to have a “what ifmoment. Not correct. Regardless of age anyone could have a “what ifmoment. At any time we can recall back to a time that we made a major decision of
having a “what if moment.

Take the leap, cut the cards and roll the dice. “JUST DO IT!!”. The worst thing that can happen is that we can make a mistake. A mistake today can always be corrected. A “what ifmoment now, years from our present time will never be able to be corrected. It will be with us for the rest of our lives.

The decision is yours and in your hands. And Frank Yan of Sacramento asks...... What would it be, “WHAT IFor “JUST DO IT”?