Frank Yan of Sacramento on Self - Forgiving

Couple years ago in Sacramento, Frank Yan thought that the only way to feel good about himself was forgiving other people. Frank tried really hard doing this but deep inside of him something was still wrong. It was like emptiness and he was not really feeling good about himself. Because Frank was working a lot on himself and he had committed to himself to honor his self-worth. Suddenly realizing that the first step in forgiveness was: forgiving Frank himself.

How can you possible forgive other people if you are not forgiving yourself?



Self-forgiveness is to allow of all the anger regarding your past failures go, the errors and mistakes we all make. Self-forgiveness is to let go of your need to feel sorrow, regret and anger about your past.Self-forgiveness is self-love, is to accept yourself, to have compassion and the understanding that you were doing the best you could at that moment.


Self-forgiveness will set you free, because you will not hold yourself in debt with it and you will be able to understand your past and you will move on.If you do not forgive yourself you will feel indifference toward your own needs, you will have destructive behaviors, self-pity and resistance to heal your wounds keeping you in low self-esteem.


What are the steps to forgiving YOU?


·Accept for your own failures, errors and mistakes
·Believing in yourself and accepting your goodness
·Letting go of the hurt and pain
·Write down what emotions do you feel about this
·Write down what do you need to forgive yourself for
·Learning from your mistakes, failures and errors
·Take the decision to forgive yourself


Forgiving yourself will bring you inner peace and the ability to forgive others. Frank Yan believes that self-forgiveness is inseparable from self-love, self-esteem and self-respect.


When Frank stops to analyze about what may be holding him back, Frank likes to find solitude time by himself by walking or riding his bike on along the Sacramento River Run in West Sacramento. This gives him time to gather his thoughts and re configure what he needs to self-forgive.